Well Being Series
- Rebekah Advocate
- Nov 8
- 2 min read
🌿 Calm & Connected Families
Finding Steady Ground When Life Feels Unpredictable
If you’re reading this, chances are you’ve been holding a lot lately — juggling school meetings, appointments, home routines, and trying to keep everyone’s emotions steady (including your own). You’re not alone.
Over the past two years, through my work supporting hundreds of families with EHCPs and education struggles, I’ve seen a common thread: families are exhausted, children are overwhelmed, and many of us are running on empty. Yet, within all the chaos, there’s also incredible love, resilience, and hope.
That’s why I’ve created this new fortnightly wellbeing series, “Calm & Connected Families.”
It’s a gentle space where we’ll explore realistic, trauma-informed ways to bring more calm, connection, and understanding into our daily lives — even when systems feel broken or days feel too long.
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🌸 This week’s reflection: You don’t have to fix everything today.
As parents and carers, especially of neurodivergent children, we often carry an invisible pressure to fix, plan, and predict every moment. But sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is simply pause.
Take one deep breath before reacting.
Sit beside your child instead of talking at them.
Light a candle, open a window, stretch your shoulders.
Calm isn’t a permanent state — it’s something we return to, again and again, together.
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🌼 Try this small reset today:
Choose one micro-moment to be fully present.
It could be during breakfast, while walking the dog, or at bedtime.
Notice your child’s body language, their tone, their energy — and let that awareness guide your next move, rather than rushing to manage or fix.
These small pauses are where connection grows.
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🌙 Over the next few weeks, we’ll explore:
How to create calmer mornings and evenings
Gentle grounding tools for you and your child
Supporting sensory needs at home
Rest after overwhelm
And finding joy again in the everyday moments
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Parenting a neurodivergent child often feels like standing in the middle of a storm — but you are the calm within it. And even when you don’t feel calm, your willingness to keep showing up is what makes the difference.
You’ve got this. We’ll walk it together.
With care,
Rebekah Herbert
Independent SEND EHCP Advisory Service
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