Uniform isn't one size fits All
- Rebekah Advocate
- Apr 25
- 3 min read
Uniform Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All: Clothing and Reasonable Adjustments for Neurodivergent Children
Let’s be honest: school uniforms aren’t always made with every child in mind. If you’re the parent of a neurodivergent child, you probably already know that what seems like a minor issue to some can be a major hurdle for your child. Labels, seams, tights, collars, certain shoes – they’re not just annoying, they can be unbearable.
This blog is for you. The tired parent who has explained for the hundredth time why your child can’t wear that itchy jumper. The one who’s had uniform battles before breakfast. The one being told your child is being "non-compliant" when really, they’re in sensory distress.
What Does the Law Say?
Under the Equality Act 2010, schools have a legal duty to make reasonable adjustments for disabled pupils. That includes many neurodivergent children – whether or not they have a formal diagnosis.
Schools must do what they can to remove barriers to education. That means understanding that sensory needs around clothing are real, and adjusting expectations when uniform causes distress or distraction.
If your child has an EHCP (Education, Health and Care Plan), the school has an even stronger legal obligation to meet their needs. Sensory processing issues can and should be included in that plan, along with specific clothing accommodations if necessary.
What Reasonable Adjustments Can Look Like
Here are just a few ways schools can (and should) adapt:
Flexible uniform rules: Soft fabrics instead of stiff shirts, tag-free garments, elasticated trousers, no tights, or different shoes if needed.
Layering allowed: Hoodies, base layers, or jackets kept on indoors if they help your child feel secure and regulated.
PE accommodations: Letting kids wear PE kits all day or change in a private space. No pressure to change clothes if it causes distress.
Sensory tools: Wearing compression garments, weighted vests, or even chewable jewellery should be permitted when it helps a child regulate.
No sanctions: Kids shouldn’t be punished, isolated, or sent home for not wearing uniform when it’s related to a disability.
Getting Schools on Board
You don’t have to just accept "It’s policy" as an answer. Here are some tips:
Put it in writing. Explain your child’s needs and why certain clothes are a problem. Reference the Equality Act and use the term "reasonable adjustment."
Ask for a meeting. Speak with the SENCO. Bring examples of the clothing that causes issues and what your child is comfortable wearing.
Request documentation. If the school refuses an adjustment, ask them to explain in writing why they feel it’s not reasonable.
Use your EHCP. If you have one, make sure it includes specific sensory needs and clothing requirements. If you don’t, you can still get one if your child needs more formal support.
Escalate if needed. You can speak to your local SENDIASS service or make a formal complaint to the local authority.
Final Thoughts
Your child deserves to learn in comfort and dignity. Sensory needs aren’t a fashion preference – they’re real, and they matter. Don’t let anyone tell you your child has to suffer to fit in.
Uniforms should work for children, not against them. And when it comes to neurodivergent kids, one-size-fits-all just isn’t good enough.
You know your child best. Keep advocating, keep asking questions, and don’t be afraid to push back. Because every child has the right to feel safe and supported at school – down to the clothes on their back.
Need help wording a request or EHCP section? Drop a comment or reach out – you’re not alone in this fight.
Suggested Visual Elements
1. Infographic – “Signs Your Child Might Need Clothing Adjustments at School”
Icons + text: itching, meltdowns at dressing time, refusal to wear certain items, sensory seeking (e.g., hoodie compression), anxiety before school
2. Checklist Graphic – “Clothing Adjustments You Can Ask For”
Soft uniform options
No tights/buttoned shirts
Sensory supports allowed
Alternative shoes
No changing for PE
Private changing space
No punishment for clothing issues
3. Flowchart – “What to Do If School Says No”
Request in writing → Meet with SENCO → Refer to Equality Act → Ask for written refusal → Escalate to SENDIASS or LA
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